The Purpose of Life
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The purpose of life or the reason of life…?
Take your pick. The other day somebody asked me why I thought it was so easy to do wrong rather than right.
Well, one can philosophize on this topic until the cows come home but there is actually only one answer… because it is so easy.
Discipline takes work. You have to make a conscious choice as to the purpose of your decision. Just think about it. It is much easier to say yes than to say no.
To say no you actually have to think about the reason why you have come to that decision. Like they say, and to this day I still don’t know who they are, it is easier to go with the flow.
That is why we have sheep acting like people or is it people acting like sheep?
Living Life with Purpose
It is all about living life with purpose and I think we can safely say that accounts for about 2% of the inhabitants of this planet. The rest don’t even vaguely know what the purpose of life means.
The purpose of life equals, being born then to grow up and live a life of value to your fellow man and procreate, then to create something for the coming generations to build upon and finally to die.
That is the purpose or like in the film, the circle of life. God forbid that you should want to be happy during that time, like one idiotic train of thought that the purpose of life is not to be happy but to matter.
Bull! If the purpose of life is not to be happy, do you really think anything will still matter? Just imagine all the zombies going around doing their daily chores.
Ah… Well… You don’t really have to imagine that. Just look around you.
So what has all this to do with the ease of doing wrong rather than right? Everything, I’m afraid to say.
If you have no purpose like those who are too lazy to even try to work and constantly living in the past then it is very easy to just do what is easier. If you want money, just rob a store and if somebody stands in your way too shocked to move, just kill him.
Doing it Right or Doing it The Easy Way?
What’s easier?
If you’re lonely just say yes to sex. Usually a very fleeting feeling of belonging to someone but hey why knock it, you may even get some venereal disease as a goodbye gift.
If you profess to be a Christian you may vaguely remember that the Bible describes the road to wrongdoing as wide and easy to follow but the road to discipline as narrow and full of rocks and thorns.
The Right Way According to…
The real purpose of life (without any deeper philosophical meaning) is:
- to grow up with discipline, individuality, and love
- to be happy and do what you love and to matter to yourself And God
- to marry somebody who loves you as much as you love them
- to have a family
- to “grow up” with your children and nurture, and “discipline” them, and be their friend
- to create a good living and future for them
- to have fun together
- to have “real” friends, not virtual friends
- to accept the good as well as the bad
- to accept that which you cannot change and have the guts to change that which you can
- to be happy… again…? Sigh… All this happiness is tiring
- and even if you never get rich to enjoy and be grateful for what you do have.
Not a definitive list by any standards but one that takes a little more work and hence is a little more difficult to achieve. But hey… I’ll take that any day over a life of so called fun and cool living of the in crowd because boy, when they die they die alone and forgotten.
So now… Upwards and onwards to “your” purpose in life… Is it going to be easy street or something with real value?
Look out for the next scary installment of…
Why Do You Think Your Relationship is Not Working
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Today I just need to talk about something that has been bothering me for a long time. In fact since I’ve been two to three years old.
Why Are Relationships Going Bad
I receive many questions on topics about bad relationships, or relationships going bad, or issues in marriage.
I think I can safely say that more than ninety nine percent of those questions revolve around one thing and one thing alone or the lack thereof.
Communication… You would think that in our so called sophisticated, civilized time, communication would be one of the things we mastered.
Well, I’m sad to say that it seems to be deteriorating and that people are paying less and less notice to the way they communicate that is if they even know the role it plays in relationships.
What do you think communication is or should essentially be about?
Communication is not only a tool but is also a God given ability to understand each other.
Yeah, sure, I can already hear all the snide remarks about understanding men or understanding women.
Just sit back and think on how we are supposed to understand each other.
To Communicate or Not to Communicate
You will have to admit that the only way we can understand each other is by communicating.
Understanding however is a little more complex and that makes communication not just about talking.
For example, a wife has some suspicions about her husband’s sudden habit of going to the mall on his own. For weeks she ponders and fumes about this and the inner dialog is getting stronger and stronger.
“We’ve been married for ten years now. Has he lost interest in me or am I getting old and am I not attractive enough anymore?
What if…” This is where things start to get complicated. She starts comparing herself to younger women and the suspicions grow.
Can you see where this is going? Something is now starting to fester. What should have been the logical course of events?
Trust and Understanding – The Cornerstones of Open Communication
In the first place, when they married, one of the basic principles of the relationship should have been trust.
When you have trust it is possible to ask anything and get a decent answer.
So without trust where do we end up? Back where we started.
You and I cannot understand somebody if we do not know them and to know somebody you need to ask questions and listen, yes, attentively listen.
To ask questions and to listen without prejudice and interrupting is to get to know each other intimately.
That builds upon trust and produces a spirit of freedom in a relationship, freedom from suspicions and jealousy.
Understand…?
Thus the husband comes home and his wife starts going ballistic. She rants and raves and cry, asking if she is not good enough anymore. He stands there in utter shock and when it finally dawns on him what it is about, he says:
“But darling I was just trying to find you something for Valentine’s Day. You know how bad I am at choosing something.”
Oh… To communicate or not to communicate, that is the true question.
